The Reason for Being judgmental.

So I would guess you knew that one of my most distinct traits is my judgment. Lately it's turned into a humorous facet, but I'm not so sure it was ever so funny.

No, I don't judge a person for too many petty things unless I've just met them. I feel that that is the time to judge if any. An average person will meet thousands of people in their lifetime if not many more. I don't see the need to become friends or even acquaintances with all of them.

Obviously a single person's personality type is not compatible with all others'. Some may be much more open to more friendships, but I think that each of these numerous friendships lose a small amount of depth as they stack up. Intimate relationships become friendships, which in turn eventually water down into names and then into faces. Because of the simple lack of time in a person's lifetime, they cannot get to know too many people in an intimate way and maintain that.

I have never had a strong need for friendships. I suppose it takes a particular mood for me to be friendly, or for a person to be particularly interesting to make me want to talk to them. I don't have to always be shy; I can push myself to talk if I am intrigued enough, even with nothing to say. Therefore, I suppose, I am never looking for friends. It doesn't matter to me how many friends I have, unless it is bothersome to deal with the number of them.

I guess I see them too objectively. I love my friends, don't get me wrong. But I'd prefer to be able to talk to them all with as much time and respect as they deserve.

So, in defense of this, I judge people as I meet them. I examine their sense of humor, the novelty of their words... things like that. If a person has no substance or blends into the thousands of nameless faces, I won't be inclined to know them further. It's okay. This first judgment doesn't cut a person off completely; they have their own right to try as well.

I cut out people that are annoying and whom I know I would tear apart. I don't want someone in my life I know will always just make me feel negatively. I don't want to constantly be angry at someone. And I don't want them to feel guilty for their way of living if it bothers me. We simply don't have to be friends.

It's not that I'm judging them for themselves. Every act of judgment is in relation to myself. I know this person is annoying only to me. I don't find this person interesting to me alone. So I suppose I'm saying that the judgment is for them as well as for me. I don't want to weigh them down with a friendship that will not benefit them either. Who wants to be friends with someone who is constantly annoyed at everything they say?

Yeah, I'm judgmental, but it's only for the benefit of those surrounding me. Sometimes, I suppose, I see relationships as extra weight of a sort.